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Amanda Kloots has been persistent in relaying her tale battling with grief, and one of the members with whom she opened up gave her a new perspective on loss. The fitness guru and television star confessed that the honesty of his friend showed her that the end of suffering is not the core of the matter, but healings are. Her crying post reflected the emotions of many identical losses and even thousand others echoed her words.
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Kloots narrates a recent lunch story with a friend who asked her directly when she would be through the grieving period. She was going to say something hopeful, but he cut her short. He replied, “NEVER.” This response bewildered her but at the same time, she comprehended the truth he was hinting at. One never fully recovers from a major loss. The only way left is going through the process of healing which is constant work.
She emphasized that the actions are very individualized and ultimately it is the personal choice of every single one. Different means could be employed to avoid suffering such as running, hiding, keeping busy, or working a lot, but in the end, it will surface again as something more distressing when the time comes. Kloots posed seeking bravery, making others see their pain as a fight, going deeper, and unearthing the cause. If she wasn’t careful, she warned, grief could become the main issue in your life in the most unexpected and obnoxious ways.
The co-host of ‘Talk’ even dedicated one whole day to her healing journey. She disclosed that on her way to the appointment she had so many doubts. She was doubting whether it was necessary and if she was actually taking the right step. But eventually, the whole procedure was like a roller coaster ride. On her way home, she was weeping and articulating her tremendous gratitude for what she had learned and her trainer. Her last words were a dare: take your time, set up a place for healing, and don’t run away from it—run towards it.
Kloots’s frank post received an immediate and profound response. Many people shared their stories of loss thus an online network of empathy, support, and understanding was formed.
One reader who lost his brother unexpectedly early this year thought that loss感never gets easier or disappears. They described their mourning as a wave, appearing in different forms and sometimes fading out for a while. They referred to Amanda as a powerful source of inspiration for the whole grieving community.
A brief comment from another person who lost his/her partner just ten months ago said that this post was exactly what they needed. Although their words were few, they sounded like a lot, and they provided a glimpse into the very raw, initial stages of death and the search for support.
A very touching observation came from a woman who had shared her husband’s lifelong grief. When he was 13 years old, his 18-year-old sister died as a result of a car accident. Fifty years after this tragic event, he still mourns. The couple has different losses but one thing they agree on: the grieving does not stop before one’s death.
A mother in mourning revealed her own difficult step towards self-care, which came after the death of her husband last May. She hired a baby sitter for Saturday night so she could go to a nice dinner, people-series and just relax. She confessed that she felt very guilty for her plans but at the same time she acknowledged that she needed to take care of herself for her daughter’s sake. She was thankful to Kloots for emphasizing this crucial process of self-care.
A very sad remark drew attention to the unexpected ways that comfort can come. A lady whose mother died a few years ago said that it was the hardest period in her life and that she had become the survivor. In this case, it was more common than usual. The mother and daughter who used to see 313 as a number that connected them; that was how they communicated all the way around. The daughter thought when she saw that Kloots’ post had 31 comments that it was her mother’s subtle way of connecting with her. She was indeed very grateful to Kloots for being brave, for being real, and for being a light.
The united counterpoint was rather simplified: mourning is one of human activities worldwide as it is a life-long companion. Kloots was not offering a quick fix or a guarantee that pain would cease. Rather she was suggesting a more grounded and perhaps softer approach. Stopping at the point of no grief is not the target. The goal is to keep brave and personal healing work going on forever while making considerable room for tears, memories, and undying love, which has always been there. Her message was a powerful reminder to the audience that the path to resilience and serenity lies through the facing of our very deep sorrow.
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