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Widow Kelsey Parker has shared an inspiring message with her followers about not letting outside judgment get to them and living life by their own truth. She gives her thoughts against a backdrop of critics who have judged her on very intimate personal choices, asserting that what really matters is following one’s heart.
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It may well be the most raw and vulnerable clip ever put out there with so much conviction: “Guys how are you? So this is my little thought of the day,” she started, and then shortly moved onto her core thought on the judgment of others:
“People are going to judge you,” Parker said plainly. “People are going to comment on what you’re doing and sometimes it’s even the people that are closest to us who don’t like the decisions that we make.” She continued, explaining that, though the judgments might hurt, the more important answer is the philosophy that she lives by: “But here’s the truth. That’s okay. Their judgement belongs to them. That’s how they feel.”
Her examples come through personal experience, moving publicly through grief and beyond side by side with Parker. “Look at me. I’ve been judged so much,” she says referring to some of her critiques. “When’s the right time to move on? When’s the right time to have a baby?” Those questions have come down hard on her ever since her husband Tom died of brain cancer in 2022.
Yet the response her life has given to the question of what to do about the judgments carries the power of simplicity: “But do you know what? Every choice I’ve made has been for me- for what’s felt right in my heart and that’s what matters the most.” That is a telling remark outlining the road Parker has been traveling on ever since becoming a widow and a single mother of two small children.
The next statement in her post practically hollers the same message, “Stop living for their approval. Start living for your truth. Because you are the one who counts the most.” Ending the video is the presumed personal code of values for life after experiencing great loss: “Because I know we all know. Tomorrow isn’t promised so dim the noise. Listen to your gut. Listen to what your gut is telling you and remember you are the one that counts the most.”
The response was speedy and extremely supportive within minutes of posting. Many comments said how much they needed to hear these statements, such as, “What I needed to hear right immediately ❤️ xx” and, “Amazing words and thoughts! Needed to hear this! Thank you!”
Another comment referred to Parker’s specific struggles: “You are one amazingly strong woman.everything you’ve been through and you stay positive.i love watching your journey.xxxx” That says a great discount as the public is aware of some of her losses, having lost not just her husband but also her mother and a friend in a very short span of time.
Another commenter delved into those judgments to which Parker referred quite directly: “No one has a right to an opinion about your life Kelsey. People do that to me and they bluntly told to mind their own business. It shuts them up.” It would seem, from these comments, that Parker’s message really struck a chord with those who have been similarly judged.
Another follower concurred with the thoughts on judging and timing, “Very strange I got this today…. 😢xxx.” It just goes to show how universal the struggle with others’ opinions is, as well as the universal cry for validation in one’s decisions.
That incisive honesty, coupled with the imperative wisdom she has accumulated while walking through the trauma, reminds every one of us that, regardless of what anyone else may say or do, it is only by being true to oneself that one is led to peace on this side and fulfillment.
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Through her speaking strategies, Kelsey Parker has shown herself as the embodiment of strength as she turns her private mourning into wisdom and healing for all who movie.
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